Ask any man, “What are you feeling?”, and nine out of a ten will respond, “I feel good” or “I feel fine.” The problem is, good and fine aren’t feelings. They are catch all terms we use to avoid thinking about our feelings and emotions. The truth is that most, if not all people strugglingContinue reading “What are you Feeling?”
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Let’s Do This!
What does a new year look like? For many people a new year means resolutions, dreams, and hope for the future. For some it can look like uncertainty, fear, or the resignation that nothing ever changes. Some people commit to reading the Bible through in a year. Some purchase a gym membership and decide toContinue reading “Let’s Do This!”
Holidays
We are just a few days before Christmas. Some of us are making last minute plans for friends and family that are coming to visit. Some of us are about to hit the road to spend the holiday with family or friends. Some of us are about to spend our first Christmas in a newContinue reading “Holidays”
Road Trip!
From time to time someone will check in to a group to share a recent relapse. Sometimes they check in same day. Sometimes they wait a few days or more. Often, they will express shame or discouragement. Many times, they will talk about having to start all over again from the beginning. This might stemContinue reading “Road Trip!”
Pain
“They made themselves a god they could touch and feel. “A lot of people do that with grief and pain. They fix their eyes and their hearts on a casket or a divorce or a diagnosis, they drink or use drugs or do something else to numb the pain, and they spend their lives holdingContinue reading “Pain”
Expand Your Community
If you’ve been in recovery for more than a few days, you’ve probably heard about the giant telephone. Mine weighed about 500 lbs I have heard about phones that weighed 100 lbs, 250 lbs. One guy even claimed his weighed 1,000 lbs. At least that’s what it felt like when you tried to pick itContinue reading “Expand Your Community”
Jeremiah 29:11
Jeremiah 29:11 is a verse often quoted and found on bumper stickers and refrigerator magnets, but I have found that not many people are aware of what is actually being told to us. Jeremiah had spent 40 years calling the nation of Israel to clean up their act. In Jeremiah chapter 7 we are toldContinue reading “Jeremiah 29:11”
Unhappy Holidays!
Is it too early to talk about the holidays? I don’t think so. The holidays can be a hard time for many people in recovery. Maybe you’re married or in a relationship and you’re already beginning to be triggered by thoughts of how you are going to balance things between your family and the familyContinue reading “Unhappy Holidays!”
The Gift of Desperation
It was Tuesday, October 11, 2011. I slept in a little late that morning as it was my day off. One of my room mates woke me to let me know I was wanted in the office. I got up and dressed, let some people know where I was going and headed up the walk.Continue reading “The Gift of Desperation”
The Ditch
Someone asked me recently about my experience with long term recovery. My first thought was why are you asking me about this? When I think of long-term recovery, I think of guys I know that have been walking this road for twenty or thirty years or more. I have been in recovery more than aContinue reading “The Ditch”