This is the second blog in a series on feelings. I read a story about a child that has a congenital disease that prevents him from feeling pain. When he was three years old his mother was baking cookies and left the kitchen just for a minute. The child had been asleep, but at thatContinue reading “Hurt”
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What Are You Feeling?
What are you feeling? I ask this question dozens of times every week and most people give me one of two common answers. “I feel good”, or “I feel fine.” Neither are valid answers to my question. Good and fine are words we use to avoid having to think about what we are feeling. IContinue reading “What Are You Feeling?”
The Lens We Use
Recently, I fell asleep in a recliner. When I woke up, I began to look around for my glasses and couldn’t find them. After a few minutes I realized they were on my face. I was wearing them the entire time. All of us view life through a lens. Some of us realize this andContinue reading “The Lens We Use”
I Think I Can Do This By Myself
“I think I can do this by myself.” Here’s a simple question. How’s that going for you? A 12-step study I have been leading will be wrapping up this weekend. Seven of us have been in this study for about six months. We have spent two weeks digging into each of the steps. In additionContinue reading “I Think I Can Do This By Myself”
Does Anybody Hear Me?
Therapist Adam Young talks about three questions of attunement. Does anyone hear me? Does anyone see me? Can anyone help me? With that first scream we utter as a newborn we are asking these three questions. Many of us add an additional struggle to this set as we grow older. We also struggle with theContinue reading “Does Anybody Hear Me?”
What are you Feeling?
Ask any man, “What are you feeling?”, and nine out of a ten will respond, “I feel good” or “I feel fine.” The problem is, good and fine aren’t feelings. They are catch all terms we use to avoid thinking about our feelings and emotions. The truth is that most, if not all people strugglingContinue reading “What are you Feeling?”
Let’s Do This!
What does a new year look like? For many people a new year means resolutions, dreams, and hope for the future. For some it can look like uncertainty, fear, or the resignation that nothing ever changes. Some people commit to reading the Bible through in a year. Some purchase a gym membership and decide toContinue reading “Let’s Do This!”
Holidays
We are just a few days before Christmas. Some of us are making last minute plans for friends and family that are coming to visit. Some of us are about to hit the road to spend the holiday with family or friends. Some of us are about to spend our first Christmas in a newContinue reading “Holidays”
White Knuckles
I remember times in the past when I would drop by a meeting for the first time in a few months. I would try to speak to several people that attended meetings regularly. My goal was to make sure I was seen. I didn’t really want to talk to anybody. I just needed to beContinue reading “White Knuckles”
Road Trip!
From time to time someone will check in to a group to share a recent relapse. Sometimes they check in same day. Sometimes they wait a few days or more. Often, they will express shame or discouragement. Many times, they will talk about having to start all over again from the beginning. This might stemContinue reading “Road Trip!”