I’m thinking about two different interactions I had with friends recently. Both took place as we met at different times over coffee. The first conversation was with a friend about the same age that I am. It began with talk about politics, local news and sports. As we talked, I began to sense that thereContinue reading “Hey, have you got a minute?”
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Darkness
Recently one of my grandsons came to spend the night with me for the first time since I moved. He is five. Being a good papaw, I let him stay up later than mommy and daddy do. He fell asleep just before a line of strong thunder storms rolled through. My daughter texted me toContinue reading “Darkness”
Appreciation
If you’re sober right now I’m glad you’re standing and I am proud of you. There were days early in my recovery when I was measuring my sobriety by how many minutes I had been awake. I’m guessing some of you have experienced those days. Maybe you’re living one now. I’d like to suggest thatContinue reading “Appreciation”
Living Life
Some of you that follow my blog or know me personally know that I have experienced a few events that I fondly refer to as “moments of extreme temporary stupidity”. I first heard that phrase directed at some things I had done as I was being sentenced to two years in prison. The truth is,Continue reading “Living Life”
Grace
I came across this quote from Gerald May on St. Augustine this week and man, did it pierce my soul. “God is always trying to give good things to us, but our hands are too full to receive them.” As I contemplated what I fill my hands with my first thoughts were “things”, stuff, possessions.Continue reading “Grace”
Behavior, Feelings and Needs
At the core of every behavior is a need. Some of those needs are perceived but as I’ve looked at my own heart and listened to the hearts of other men, I’ve come to believe that many, if not most of those needs are not just perceived but they are real. Each of those needsContinue reading “Behavior, Feelings and Needs”
ANGER VS. RAGE
I used to believe that anger was my go-to emotion. If I didn’t know how to respond, if I felt out of control, I would respond with anger. What I’ve learned in my recovery is that my go-to emotion was rage, and yes, there is a difference. Anger is about the “Here and Now.” ItContinue reading “ANGER VS. RAGE”
Hide and Seek
Do you remember playing hide and seek as a child? Sometimes I still play hide and seek with parts of my story, parts of my heart, and areas of my life. Like a child that covers his eyes and thinks that because he can’t see anybody, no one can see him.I think that if IContinue reading “Hide and Seek”
What Are You Feeling?
Ask any man, “What are you feeling?”and ninety nine out of a hundred will respond, “I feel good.” The problem is, good isn’t a feeling. Good is a catch all term we use to avoid thinking about our feelings and emotions. The truth is that most, if not all addiction comes from an attempt toContinue reading “What Are You Feeling?”