I was introduced to pornography through a magazine I found under the seat of my dad’s pickup truck at about the age of nine. The internet didn’t exist at that time and I am thankful. As a teenager I sometimes drove to the next county to a store where I was confident no one wouldContinue reading “Pornography”
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Masks
As I am writing, today is Halloween. I loved Halloween as a kid. It meant costumes and candy. This morning one of my grandsons was running through the house in a Batman costume. It’s normal for kids to enjoy wearing masks and pretending to be someone else like a superhero or a cartoon character. OverContinue reading “Masks”
Clean and Sober
Has the thought ever crossed your mind, “Why am I the only one that has to live like this?” Have you set boundaries on yourself based on struggles in your life? Maybe you’ve committed yourself to attending AA, NA, SA or a multitude of other recovery meetings each week. Maybe at this point you’ve setContinue reading “Clean and Sober”
Behavior, Feelings and Needs
At the core of every behavior is a need. Some of those needs are perceived but as I’ve looked at my own heart and listened to the hearts of other men, I’ve come to believe that many, if not most of those needs are not just perceived but they are real. Each of those needsContinue reading “Behavior, Feelings and Needs”
When You Think You have Everyone Fooled
I saw this picture recently and I couldn’t help but laugh. It caused me to think back to my time in active addiction. I wonder how many times I thought I had the world fooled. I thought I had everything together and there wasn’t any way people could see how screwed up and confused IContinue reading “When You Think You have Everyone Fooled”
ANGER VS. RAGE
I used to believe that anger was my go-to emotion. If I didn’t know how to respond, if I felt out of control, I would respond with anger. What I’ve learned in my recovery is that my go-to emotion was rage, and yes, there is a difference. Anger is about the “Here and Now.” ItContinue reading “ANGER VS. RAGE”
Anything worth doing is worth doing badly… G.K. Chesterton
This is a quote from G.K. Chesterton that I have put a lot of thought into and I have come to believe it has a lot to say to anyone considering or walking in recovery. I think back to some of the excuses I used to avoid beginning or continuing in the recovery journey. AContinue reading “Anything worth doing is worth doing badly… G.K. Chesterton”
Fail Better
This is one of my favorite quotes. I think it’s because I have realized that sooner or later I will fail again. Perfection is not a possibility. Not for me. Not for you. In my walk I have learned that to shoot for perfection is to prepare for relapse. If I expect perfection anything lessContinue reading “Fail Better”
Hide and Seek
Do you remember playing hide and seek as a child? Sometimes I still play hide and seek with parts of my story, parts of my heart, and areas of my life. Like a child that covers his eyes and thinks that because he can’t see anybody, no one can see him.I think that if IContinue reading “Hide and Seek”
What Are You Feeling?
Ask any man, “What are you feeling?”and ninety nine out of a hundred will respond, “I feel good.” The problem is, good isn’t a feeling. Good is a catch all term we use to avoid thinking about our feelings and emotions. The truth is that most, if not all addiction comes from an attempt toContinue reading “What Are You Feeling?”